A woman I know told me that when she first had sex and lost her
virginity, she felt she had been run over by a Mack truck. She felt it took her
years to recover from it. But because of her mental conditioning, she thought
that that was supposed to happen. That somehow her self esteem was supposed to
diminish. She was thrown off her path for years just by having teenage sex with
a man who didn’t care about her, and with men afterwards who did not esteem her
at all. They thought of her as someone fluffy, disposable, not to be taken
seriously. They did not see her as powerful.
In my teens and twenties, when I was certain I understood sex perfectly,
I often had unemotional, athletic sex with men.
When we parted company, it was clean (I thought). We’d had a good time and then it was
over. The “game” part of me was smug –
I’d fulfilled my sex drive for a little while.
But my being, the ancient, sensitive, psychic being that I and all women
are, was not pleased.
There was actually a subtle feeling, something like my
friend’s. Not a Mack Truck but maybe a
Mini Cooper that was driving in the wrong direction after the encounter. I was drained and I knew it. Taking a shower, going to classes, focusing
on other things took the edge off the sense of unease, but if someone had asked
me to respond with three answers to the question, How do you feel right now? –
the third answer being closest to truth –I would have admitted that I felt like
shi_.
These moments happen because there is something basic that men and
women, teens, tweens do not understand. As a woman, you have an energy body that is
very fluid, it extends out from your physical body like a large butterfly’s
wings. As a woman, you conduct life
force much more rapidly than a man, and because of this, your essential nature
is power. Women exemplify power. Look at how power is generated in nature and
technology – the core of power is rapid movement. This is how life force or kundalini energy is
conducted through the energy body of a woman – rapidly, capable of fast
transmutation.
The energy body of men is denser, more tightly packed. They conduct life force more slowly than
women. Their essential nature, the
equalities they exemplify, are love and humility.
It’s a tendency of human nature (male or female) to destroy what
one is threatened by. Thus men,
threatened by the power of women, have tried to suppress it in every way. For many thousands of years, women have been
suppressed socially, emotionally, financially, held back from education – to
the extent that women themselves began to think they were weak.
Now, in this mental age, the power of women is becoming more and more
evident. You as a woman have power, but
you can trash it.
For example, let’s say you, a woman, want to go out and have sex
with a male partner (this scenario refers to heterosexual relations). Consider the dynamics.
Your energy body vibrates faster than his. Your energy body is also more sensitive than
his. Let’s say this man is like many men
and still harbors some distrust or resentment towards the power of women. When you go to bed with this man, even if you
think it’s casual sex, you open yourself up so that his feelings enter into
you. You may not realize it but you are
picking up an entire library, a psychic archive of this man’s feelings about
women. You are not just getting
laid. You are getting imprinted.
Sex is an energy exchange.
If you go out and date a “bad” guy, a macho guy, an angry guy (or gal),
whew! You are sucking up those qualities
into your being every time you spend relaxation time or sex with this person. For the average date-and-run, you are getting
your power taken away, and in its place you are receiving a host of negative images
and impressions. Spending time with the
“wrong” person is a bad exchange. You’ll
never know what you missed by not allowing your being to blossom in power. You’ll never know what doorways you did not
walk through.
Back in the very olden days, sex was a high spiritual
practice. There was nothing angry, bad,
foolish or weird about it. People had
sex to elevate their consciousness. You,
the power woman, can still do that by going to bed only with nice partners who
do not harbor anger and resentment towards you or towards women.
I’m not suggesting that all men are bad. But many men have very disrespectful and
inappropriate ideas of women, and during sex, they inject those ideas into you,
without your being aware (in your state of sexual openness) and trash your
power potential. You crawl out of your
twenties eager to get out of the dating mess and settle down. Emphasis on the word, “settle.”
You have to make sure, mindful ladies, that the man being allowed
into your body is only projecting into you the highest views of your power and
your being. And that will be the partner who honors the highest ideal of power
in you, the tsunami fully risen. If a man or partner can’t accept that about you,
then he/she is doing you a great disservice. If you meditate, your partner’s doubts and
negativity will prevent you from becoming enlightened.
Suggestion! Go out with
nice partners or don’t go out at all, and start to observe. If you are dating men, find men who embrace
their love and humility. Observe the faster,
more fluid energy body of women and the more grid-like, denser energy body of
men. It’s all around you. Trust your intuition. Compare a night in the sack with a partner
who may be in a low consciousness with a bright, joyous, powerful and
self-confident existence in which you help others as well as yourself. Consider helping the planet by becoming as
powerful as you can be. Don’t settle,
please!
Liz Lewinson is author of Independence
Ring: Rock the Female
Revolution. She is also a speaker, technologist
and Buddhist. See www.independencering.com.
